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The Choose Love Enrichment ProgramTM is a no cost Pre-K through 12th grade social and emotional learning program that teaches educators and their students how to choose love in any circumstance and helps them become connected, resilient, and empowered individuals. These skills, tools and attitudes have been proven through decades of scientific research to be the best way to ensure a healthy, meaningful and purpose-filled life.
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Curriculum Content
Courage is the willingness and ability to work through obstacles despite feeling embarrassment, fear, reluctance, or uncertainty.
Students learn that gratitude is mindful thankfulness and the ability to be thankful even when things in life are challenging.
Forgiveness means choosing to let go of anger and resentment toward yourself or someone else, to surrender thoughts of revenge, and to move forward with your personal power intact.
Compassion in Action:
Compassion is the understanding of a problem or the suffering of another and acting to solve the problem or alleviate the suffering. Students apply their empathy and communication skills to support one another through compassionate action.
Outcomes and Benefits

• Less anxiety and stress
• Less fearful (in the present and future)
• Enhanced self-esteem
• Improved ability to express oneself and one’s feelings
• Increased self-awareness
• Willingness to try difficult tasks

• Positive attitude towards self and others
• Improved attitude about school and learning
• Showing appreciation and kindness towards self and others
• Increased mindfulness
• Ability to see other perspectives and show empathy

• Healthier relationships and deeper connections
• Better emotional self-regulation
• Less aggression and anger
• Better able to handle personal/social issues that arise
• Improved resilience
• Improved decision-making skills
• Heightened self-management

• Enhanced connections and relationships
• Able to respond in a loving manner
• More caring and concern shown to others
• Improved social skills
• Social and Moral Awareness

• Improved focus and attention to task
• Eagerness to learn
• Improved self-confidence as a learner
• Improved emotional intelligence


On the morning of December 14th, 2012, Jesse McCord Lewis walked out of his house and down the driveway towards his father who was waiting to drive him to school. Along the way, Jesse stopped to write a message with his finger in the frost on his mother’s car: “I love you.” Just hours later, Jesse was gone. He was one of the 26 victims of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shootings in Newtown, Connecticut.

Days prior to the tragedy, Jesse wrote three words on his chalkboard at home: “Nurturing. Healing. Love.”  We understand these final words as a calling from Jesse that says, “I have something for you to do for us. That’s to consciously change an angry thought into a loving one because it is a choice.”

The Jesse Lewis Choose Love MovementTM collaborates with professional educators to bring lasting meaning to Jesse’s murder by developing school-based educational programs to change our current culture of violence to one of safety, peace and love for everyone in our world.

This is the single guiding principle, the sole purpose and motto of our work: Teaching others to Choose Love through our CHOOSE LOVE ENRICHMENT PROGRAM through social, emotional, learning.

Within a few days of teaching the first lesson I overheard one of my students tell another student to just take a brave breath and they will be okay. THANK YOU for empowering my students with lifelong skills!”
– Teacher, Elementary School in Stamford, Connecticut

of survey respondents said they have seen an improvement in classroom climate and in students’ overall behavior.
Our process

“Although we can’t always choose what happens to us, we can always choose how to respond. Children can learn to choose a loving thought over an angry one. When a child realizes that they have the power to positively impact themselves as well as those around them, it is empowering and perpetuates their positive actions and interactions.” — Scarlett Lewis, Founder of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement™


The Choose Love Enrichment Program™ is a no cost, downloadable, pre-K through 12th grade, evidence-based social and emotional (SEL) classroom program teaching children how to choose love in any circumstance. The program focuses on four important character values – Courage, Gratitude, Forgiveness, and Compassion in Action – which cultivates optimism, resilience and personal responsibility. Included elements are positive psychology, mindfulness, neuroscience, character values, and more.


Children learn that Choosing Love means choosing to live a life with Courage and Gratitude, practicing Forgiveness, and being Compassionate individuals. Being able to Choose Love promotes their resilience in challenging times. As a result, children learn personal responsibility and the understanding that they always have a choice in how they respond. They realize they can choose to love themselves, and others, and the program teaches them how to do this.


Through decades of research, including long-term studies spanning over 30+ years, we know that SEL is the most proactive and preventative mental health initiative available. SEL is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions (CASEL). The Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) is the world’s leading organization advancing one of the most important fields in education in decades: the practice of promoting integrated academic, social, and emotional learning for all children in preschool through high school.

Classroom Feedback
At-risk high school
Waterbury, CT

Courage is one of the elements that had a profound effect on me when learning to Choose Love this year. The program has changed my perspective on life, who I am today, and who I want to be later. Through patience, growth and synergy, and choosing love I am able to implement all these elements in my mature adult life and frame my perspective on the meaning of my life.

Ms. Krislyn Petti
Wilby High School, Waterbury CT

Teaching the core concepts of the Choose Love Enrichment Program fundamentally transformed my classroom and became part of our culture. During the course of teaching the formula for choosing love, my classroom climate improved dramatically and students began using the phrase ‘choosing love’ not only in our classroom but in their daily lives. In addition,  I personally benefited and was able to use the lessons in my own life. I feel that I am a better person because I implemented the Choose Love Enrichment Program in my class.

Elementary School
Harrison, Arkansas

This Movement is empowering children to be both self aware and aware of the feelings and emotions of those around them. SEL should be taught right along with the regular classroom curriculum.

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Elementary School
Honolulu, Hawaii

Choose Love Enrichment Program is not only for the students but it gives me the important tools to be a better teacher. I learned to use courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion-in-action in the classroom. It has given me the vocabulary to help my students through challenges.

Latest news & updates
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06 Feb: Choose Love SEL Awareness Month

Choose Love Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) Awareness Month is a call to action for educators, students, families and communities to celebrate and promote the importance of teaching children core competencies and skills, beyond academics, that can help them thrive socially, physically, mentally and emotionally. Social and Emotional Learning gives kids the skills and tools they need to have healthy connections and manage their emotions. SEL is a proactive and preventative mental health initiative that teaches kids: • How to get…

29 Jan: Scarlett Lewis says she hopes to prevent another tragedy

By Shreya Yedave | News | January 29, 2019 Mother of Sandy Hook victim spreads message of love to NH schools “The mother of a 6-year-old boy who was killed in the Sandy Hook school shooting visited New Hampshire on Monday with a positive message that was crafted in the wake of the tragedy. Scarlett Lewis said she wants to spread the message to every school in the country that love can overcome hate. Her son, Jesse, was one of the 20 students who…

28 Dec: Spreading ‘Choose Love Movement’ From Home To Entire Communities

By Shreya Yedave | News | December 28, 2018 Jesse’s Mom Scarlett Lewis: Spreading ‘Choose Love Movement’ From Home To Entire Communities The Choose Love At Home “program uses the Choose Love Formula…to educate parents on emotional intelligence and how building character values can help prevent future mass shootings” (John Voket, The Newtown Bee). The Choose Love Enrichment Program is a character development and social emotional learning program that is creating a culture of connectedness. Read the full article HERE.

20 Dec: Scarlett Lewis attends a round table White House meeting on School Safety

By Shreya Yedave | News | December 20, 2018 Newtown parent’s efforts get recognition in Trump school-violence report The report incorporated virtually all of the recommendations put forward by Lewis and the project she started in the aftermath of the Newtown shooting: The Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement. Lewis has been a tireless promoter nationwide of the movement’s no-cost enrichment program, which aims to help students “become connected, resilient and empowered individuals.” It essentially incorporates emotional mental health awareness into the school curriculum, Lewis…