‘The Compassionate Achiever’ – A New Book by Chris Kukk


Chris Kukk and Scarlett Lewis

We are thrilled to announce our very own Dr. Chris Kukk’s book, “The Compassionate Achiever” published by Harper Collins!!

Chris’ book walks us through society’s need for compassion to survive and how compassion can lead us to greater success and personal happiness in our lives!

Many people think of compassion as weakness when in reality it is strength. The most successful businesses, communities and individuals rely on compassion to achieve. 

Being compassionate is choosing love. This is the absolute BEST book I have read on the subject and it will change your life for the better, guaranteed!

— Scarlett Lewis

Advice from Kukk’s new book, The Compassionate Achiever:

Most of us seem to have an overwhelming urge to fill in the gaps or silences in conversations. One study found that most people break silence after only four seconds, mainly because they’re trying to either overcome a sense of insecurity or satisfy the need for social acceptance. Compassionate achievers, however, have learned to read and understand the gaps between words as important parts of the conversation. Embracing silence provides you, the listener, with an opportunity to refocus your attention. Don’t be in a rush to fill a silence with your own words. You may miss a valuable opportunity to learn.


For decades we’ve been told that we must look out for number one. But recent science shows that to achieve durable success, we need to be more than just achievers; we need to be compassionate achievers.

Kukk identifies the skills every compassionate achiever should master—listening, understanding, connecting, and acting—and explains how to develop each, with clear explanations, easy-to-implement strategies, actionable exercises and real-world examples.

The Compassionate Achiever is the handbook of real-world tools necessary for all of us to have more rewarding lives and to create more productive workplaces, and healthier, less violent communities.

Learn more.


Scarlett Lewis Speaks at Highlands Institute in Rome, Italy

Scarlett Lewis, founder of Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement, was a guest speaker at Highlands Institute in Rome, Italy on March 13, 2017 for an interactive meeting with pupils, teachers and parents, to discuss the educational program, the Choose Love Enrichment Program.
The Choose Love Movement was founded to spread the culture of love and positive thoughts, following the tragedy that struck Jesse Lewis who was killed at just six years old in the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in December 2012.
The educational program developed by Ms. Lewis, Jesse’s mother, aims to educate children and adults on how to manage emotions, in particular, how to transform anger into positive thoughts and gestures. Its motto is “Although we cannot always choose the things that happen to us, we can always choose how we respond.”
Scarlett Lewis also participated in the International Day of the Forgiveness on March 10-11, 2017 in Rome. 

‘Nurturing Healing Love’ – Hay House Pick for e-Book Special

Hay House Pick for e-Book Special

is offering an e-book special for ‘Nurturing Healing Love’. Only $3.99 though April 3, 2017. 100% of the proceeds from the book are donated to the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation, teaching children to choose love over anger.

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On February 16th, 2013 at the Javits Center in New York City, Dr. Wayne Dyer invited a woman he had met that morning, Scarlett Lewis, on stage to speak to 3,000 people… watch the video below and hear Scarlett’s powerful story.


On December 14, 2012, Scarlett Lewis experienced something that no parent should ever have to endure: she lost her son Jesse in an act of unimaginable violence. The day started just like any other, but when a gunman opened fire at Sandy Hook Elementary School, Scarlett’s life changed forever. However, this isn’t a story about a massacre. It’s a story about love and survival. It’s about how to face the impossible, how to find courage when you think you have none, and how to choose love instead of anger, fear, or hatred.

Following Jesse’s death, Scarlett went on an unexpected journey, inspired by a simple three-word message he had scrawled on their kitchen chalkboard shortly before he died: Norurting Helin Love (Nurturing Healing Love). It was as if he knew just what his family would need in order to go on after this horrible tragedy. Bolstered by his words, Scarlett took her first step toward a new life. And with each step, it became clearer how true Jesse’s message was. She learned that love was indeed the essential element necessary to move forward and that taking the path of love is a choice. We can live in anger and resentment, or we can choose love and forgiveness.

With her decision made, she found some peace and began to believe that choosing love was the key to creating a healthy, safe, and happy world. She began the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation to develop programs to teach children about the power each of us has to change our thoughts and choose a life without fear and hate.

Nurturing Healing Love is Scarlett’s story of how choosing love is changing her life—and how it could change our world.




Scarlett Lewis at the International Day of Forgiveness in Rome

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Scarlett Lewis was a featured guest and shared her story of love and forgiveness at the International Day of Forgiveness in Rome on March 10-11, 2017:

Forgiveness is central to my resilience.  A social worker came to my house shortly after the incident and told me, “I know how it feels; I’ve also lost my son and I’m here to tell you the pain will never get better.” At that moment I thought, “That is absolutely not going to be my journey.”

And so I chose the path of forgiveness. Initially it felt as if the shooter was attached to me by some umbilical cord and all my energy was being sapped.  Forgiveness felt like I was given a big pair of scissors to cut the tie and regain my personal power. It started with a choice and then became a process. 

The International Day of Forgiveness is a secular and apolitical event, celebrating forgiveness as an essential tool to build a new way of being human. Its purpose is to create an international stage to encourage people from the world of culture, politics and institutions to commit to the spread of a new culture of peace and awareness.

The International Day of Forgiveness is not a just a day event: it is the sum of a year’s work, partnerships and projects and its purpose is closely linked to the development of an educational project.

Future generations need to be freed from the burden of resentment, due to our past and present conflicts. Only through maturity, heightened awareness and generosity of an awakened consciousness, can this path be taken, the main pillars of which are responsibility and forgiveness for true individual and collective freedom.


Forgiveness is a skill, an essential tool for realizing the universal value of peace. As human beings it is our duty to form new generations who live and transmit forgiveness as a social skill in life, an evolutionary strategy necessary for health and well-being. The correct process of forgiveness is a workout for the brain for developing basic skills in the personal, relational and social sphere. Turning problems into resources, managing conflicts, developing mature empathy, and building a peaceful culture based on values of cooperation are all qualities required by new leaders.

Over recent years, interest in forgiveness has grown exponentially, spreading from the language of spirituality and psychotherapy to that of science and medicine. Scientific publications on the issue have increased, involving neuro-scientific studies primarily focused on the beneficial effects of forgiveness in the circulatory, immune and nervous systems. Thus a real science of forgiveness The International Day of Forgiveness was created with the goal of fostering the understanding of the foregoing process, so that an increasing number of people may benefit from the positive effects that this mindset can produce on multiple levels of experience. We are destined for happiness and neither our talents, nor our charisma or power can reveal who we truly are: only our choices can. This is why great souls always choose Love. This day is an invitation to discover the lost sense of forgiveness: a key by which every heart may open the door to true courage and the healing of relationships, thoughts, emotions, body and soul. 

Learn more about the International Day of Forgiveness. 

The International Day of Forgiveness is organized and promoted by My Life Design in partnership with HUMAN Foundation.


Choosing Love in Uganda

Scarlett and Jane Ekayu at WestConn PeaceJam pictured with students from the school of the deaf at WestConn PeaceJam. 

Jane Ekayu, founded the Children of Peace Uganda to begin a global dialog on the issues of child soldier and offer healing to children suffering from long-term trauma. 
In February, Jane worked with Scarlett in Hawaii and Connecticut in preparation for bringing the Choose Love program to Uganda. While in CT, Jane spoke at the WestConn Peacejam at the Western CT University, Johnathan Law High School in Milford, CT and made a special presentation in Newtown, CT, “Overcoming Tragedy with the Power of Forgiveness”.
After working on the frontlines in Uganda, Jane began engaging in global dialogue on the issues of child soldiers, recovery and renewal, Children of Peace Uganda was born. Healing therapy, education, vocational training, and creative arts are fundamental aspects of the program. She began her work as a counselor at the Rachele Rehabilitation Centre in Northern Uganda from 2004-2006 as a trauma therapist for former child soldiers rescued from the Lords’ Resistance Army. After the center closed, Jan recognized that there was a great need to follow-up with the boys and girls once they were reunited with their families to address long-term challenges such as prolongued trauma, lack of education and economic security, health complications and stigmatization. Jane has been a featured speaker at the UN General Assembly Hall and the International Criminal Courts among many others.